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Persons X and Y are two very different people, and both are friends of mine. A former Air Force lieutenant colonel, Person X is now a professor of accounting who has published dozens of books and articles. At age 52, has no children. Lead mindframe: Logic. Other mindframes in comfort zone: Proactivity and Insight. Sociability and Sensitivity rank last. A hard-charging, bottom-line person. Career is very high priority and works on top priorities until completed. Optimistic, strategic and action-oriented. Consciously builds relationships that will further career. Person Y is a screenwriter and video producer. Age 59, divorced but has a devoted relationship with a grown daughter. Lead mindframe: Insight. Other mindframes in comfort zone: Sensitivity and Logic. Very creative with keen insight into people and unfailing aesthetic judgment. A spiritual person, but often moody. Prefers free-lancing and cherishes time working alone on screenplays, though has nurtured loyal friendships with other artists in the entertainment world. Can you tell that Person X is female? She’s a very attractive and feminine woman, and she's happily married. Person Y is a man, an old high school buddy who always excelled because he immersed himself in what he was doing and did it with a lot of heart, whether that was being a football quarterback, virtuoso trumpet player, artist, photographer or screenwriter. Our culture has promoted simplified preconceptions of “what men are like” and “what women are like.” These Mars and Venus generalizations overlook the truth that about one-third of men and women don’t fit these stereotypes. Over the years, I’ve known hundreds of heterosexual women who had the style and personality traits that are commonly associated with men. And visa-versa. The reason is that for the most part, personality traits—how we think and behave—aren’t formed based on gender influences. While there are subtle differences between male and female brains, these have almost no impact on personality development. The larger influence has to do with how a person learns, over a lifetime, to think and act to cope with the challenges of life and work. A man and a woman can learn to think and act in very similar ways, and they often do. This is a testament to the complexity of the human species and the diversity of both men and women. Sweeping generalizations may sell books; but all men are not from Mars, and all women are not from Venus.
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Dennis E. Coates is CEO of Performance Support Systems, author of MindFrames, a brain-based personality assessment system (www.initforlife.com) and co-founder of the Train-to-Ingrain alliance (www.train-to-ingrain.com, info@train-to-ingrain.com, 800-488-6463), which delivers a reinforcement-centered approach to learning and development that achieves permanent, measurable improvements in workplace behavior and positive impacts on business results.
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